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One of my favorite new blogs to follow. I'm totally in love with the little girl -- Mackenzie. What a cutie! Here's what her dad says:

I’m right now in the midst of another fantastic Scientology Life Improvement Course at the Founding Church of Scientology in Washington, D.C. – this one entitled theSuccessfully Raising Children Course. Today’s course period was reading a jaw-dropping set of essays on dealing with children – one that specifically answered some of the more deep questions I’ve had brewing about parenting.

Specifically, one very central argument that is sometimes brought up in parenting circles is the age-old question of how much leash to give to your kids – how much do you try to control what they do and boss them around, and how much do you leave up to them?

Some parents, perhaps because they were brought up with overbearing families themselves, think that they should just let their kids do whatever they want to do – and not be “so controlling”. Others are the total reverse, and end up with kids constantly throwing temper tantrums because mom or dad is just dragging them around everywhere, not letting them do anything of their own choosing.

The answers to a lot of this came in one particular section in the course, which deals withConsulting the Child’s Willingness. In the article, L. Ron Hubbard said, when referring how to handle children:

You take one of two courses. Either you run expert control with lots of communication back and forth between you and the child and so on, or you just let him grow. There is no other choice. Kids don’t like to be mauled and pulled around and not consulted. You can talk to a child and if your A-R-C (affinity, reality and communication) is good with him, you can make him do all sorts of things. He will touch the floor, his head, point you out and find the table if you ask him to do these things. He will fool around for a while and after that you can just say do so-and-so and “Let’s go and eat” and he will do it. He has found out that your commands are not necessarily going to override the totality of his willingness. So your commands are therefore not dangerous. You have confronted him and he can confront you and he can do something.

– L Ron Hubbard

Scientology Video: Why we help

Official Church of Scientology: Videos, Meet a Scientologist, Religious Beliefs, Spirituality, Life Stories

Videos, Meet a Scientologist

I love the videos in the Scientology video channel.

Sometimes when I tell people I'm a Scientologist they act surprised. Like they had some screwy idea of what a Scientologist is like and I don't fit their stereotype. That's the whole point. Scientologists come in all shapes, sizes, professions and interests.

But thanks to what they learned, L. Ron Hubbard's legacy of technology, they tend to be better at what they do, more ethical and happier than many others in their chosen field, and certainly than they themselves were before.

Check out the selection of videos on the Meet a Scientologist section of the videos.

L. Ron Hubbard - Artist

Scientology Anti Drug Campaign

Every 12 seconds another school-age child experiments with illicit drugs for the first time—a grim reminder of just how pervasive drug abuse is among young people.

To combat this epidemic, the Church of Scientology sponsors the largest nongovernmental anti-drug information and prevention campaign on Earth. It has been conclusively proven that when young people are provided with the truth about drugs—factual information on what drugs are and what they do—usage rates drop commensurately. By statistical survey, the Drug-Free World Campaign has thus far prevented some 500,000 young people from recreational drug use…or worse.

There is still, however, much more to be done. Thus, the Church of Scientology offers its publications (which neither contain nor advocate any Scientology beliefs) to like-minded anti-drug coalitions, government institutions, civic groups and schools. These materials include The Truth About Drugs series of 13 educational booklets—covering the major “drugs of choice” and presented in a straightforward manner to educate young people on their actual effects."

Having a Happy Baby Course

I thought I would share this posting from my friend Tad. He and wife Kat are expecting their second baby--a boy. Just in time, the Having a Happy Baby course was released in July by Mr. David Miscavige, as part of a whole series of new courses for improving life.

Here's what Tad has to say about it:

I had to share some of the fun I’m currently having, doing the Having a Happy Baby course at the Founding Church of Scientology in Washington, DC. My wife an I did a fairly good job across our first year with Mackenzie, and now with a baby boy on the way, we wanted to both take advantage of this newly-released course at the Church to get a good grounding simple things we can do to make the next one come out as good as the first.

This course is one of a whole plethora of basic courses of study which can be done in any Church of Scientology in the world, and are based on the works of L. Ron Hubbard and center very specifically on various areas of life where Scientology can be of assistance. This one, of course, deals with how to make a happy baby – both before and immediately after the baby is born.

The course isn’t meant to replace medical training or texts on the subject, but rather gives simple basics in areas that I’ve found are seriously lacking in other gigantic and ponderous texts that I’ve accumulated in my first year of parenting.

Here are some of the things included in the course:

• How disagreements, anger, and stress in the workplace of the mother can affect the child, and what to do about it.
• Simple basics on nutrition and medication vital for the expecting mother.
• How making a happy, healthy mommy affects the production of a health, happy baby.
• What daddy should be doing immediately after the baby is born.
• How to help mom recover quickly from the effects of childbirth.

There are tons of other things, but that’s a quick few things just off the top of my head. L. Ron Hubbard had an intense love of children and intense care that they be raised well, and as such wrote continually about how various aspects of Scientology should be applied to children and childbirth – both to help the mother, and the new child. So, it’s quite amazing to see all of these data come into play in one package in this course. I’ve even read a number of these before in various books and essays, but as my mind was not on having a baby when reading them at the time, it’s really quite a different experience to get them all as compiled in this book.

One quote which I particularly liked, that I read today, is this one on Welcoming the Newborn:

Scientology parents make the baby part of the family at once. They start talking to the baby. They usually make very, very sure that the baby didn’t have a rough passage prenatally and that the baby had a decent and easy birth.

When a child arrives, the normal thing they tell the child is, “Well, how are you? Glad you’re here.”

And you’d think offhand that this would simply be fond parental belief that the child was answering up, but it isn’t. It’s amazing.

You tell a little baby, if you’re its parent, “We’re going to keep you. It’s okay. We’re going to keep you.” And you always get a sigh! They’re so happy about that. It’s such a relief to them.

– L. Ron Hubbard

Really, my hat is off to Mr. David Miscavige for persevering through the work to restore the Scientology Basics, as that’s what allowed all this compilation work to take place in the first place.

If you haven’t checked out any of these new Scientology Life Improvement courses, I’d definitely give them a look! Even if you aren’t in the market for a happy baby like we are!

A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have.~~~L. Ron Hubbard, founder of the Scientology religion

The High-Risk Job of Raising Kids in the 21st Century

It can be really hard to raise kids (or be a kid) today.

Teen suicides, crime at schools, school shootings, lots of opportunities on the Internet to get into even more trouble.

And with both parents working, sometimes multiple jobs, and more single-parent families than ever before, there's less time to spend with kids and more opportunity for them to get into serious trouble.

Are there guidelines parents can use to help their kids avoid the minefields and come out safe, well-balanced young adults who can be happy and live up to their potential?

There's one point of philosophy I apply that steers me through the rough times and helps me have more good times. It's something I learned from the Scientology Handbook by L. Ron Hubbard."Children are not dogs. They can't be trained like dogs are trained. They are not controllable items. They are, and let's not overlook the point, men and women. A child is not a special species of animal distinct from man. A child is a man or a woman who has not attained full growth." Okay. This may seem pretty obvious. But if you're like me you've seen an awful lot of kids whose parents don't seem to know this. And maybe you've failed to treat kids like this a couple of times yourself?

What does this have to do with kids getting into trouble? Well, when kids are brought up like this, they are more self-determined. And that means they will take more responsibility for themselves, their friends, and yes, even their parents.

In this same article, Hubbard wrote "The sweetness and love of a child is preserved only so long as he can exert his own self-determinism. You interrupt that and to a degree you interrupt his life."

"Aw honey, you don't really want that" (yank).

"Shut up!"

"If you don't knock it off right now we're leaving."

Of course moms and dads say and do that. What choice do they have?

Plenty.

Here an example of how this gets out of hand––witnessed one overstressed evening last week at Targets.

A mom in her mid-thirties was having a bad day. She had two kids with her. They were fighting over who should push the shopping cart. Then the fun began, with more fights, tantrums, and the inevitable smack across the bottom to one of them (and from what I could tell it was a classic case of injustice with the wrong kid getting nailed for it) followed by loud wailing and a quick exit from the store.

But what mom missed was that before this got out of control the younger kid had picked up a toy and was playing with it and having a great time and mom grabbed the toy put it back on the shelf, grabbed the kid's hand and pulled her out of the isle and over to another section of the store.

Hello? Last time someone treated me that way I hate to tell you what happened to him!

It's not necessarily easy to apply this guideline. But it's worth it, because it really works!

My advice? Treat kids the way you'd treat anyone else. See if it doesn't make your life (and theirs) a lot more livable. Read on how Scientology kids and parents mastered this part of their life. Click next

A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have.~~~L. Ron Hubbard, founder of the Scientology religion